Transitioning a loved one to memory care can be an overwhelming and emotional experience. It is never easy to see someone you care about struggle with a condition like dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. But as their needs change, it may become necessary to move them into a specialized memory care program which will provide a safe and supportive environment for your loved one. We offer specialized care and services tailored to meet the unique needs of those living with memory loss.
The Decision to Transition to Memory Care
Transitioning a loved one to memory care is never an easy decision. It often stems from the realization that their current living situation can no longer meet their needs. This can be due to safety concerns, the progression of their condition, or the inability to provide the level of care they require at home.
While it is natural to feel guilty or sad about this decision, it is important to remember that moving your loved one into memory care is ultimately for their benefit. Memory care programs are designed to improve their quality of life and provide them with the specialized care they need.
Finding the Right Care
Choosing the right memory care community is crucial for your loved one’s well-being. Here are some factors to consider when searching for the right care:
- Location: It is important to find a place that is easily accessible for family and friends to visit. This can also help ease any anxiety your loved one may have about transitioning to a new environment.
- Staff and Services: Look for specialized care with staff who are trained in caring for individuals with memory loss. They should also offer a variety of services to meet your loved one’s specific needs.
- Safety and Security: Memory care programs should have safety measures in place to prevent wandering and ensure the well-being of residents. This can include secure entrances, emergency call systems, and supervision at all times.
- Activities and Amenities: It is important for memory care programs to offer activities and amenities that can help stimulate the minds of residents. Look for programs specifically designed for those with memory loss, as well as other services like therapy or social events.
- Cost: Memory care can be costly, so it is important to research and understand the costs involved. Take the time to ask questions about pricing and options for financial assistance.
12 Tips for Moving a Loved One to Memory Care
We put together a list of tips to help you plan a smooth transition to memory care for your parents.
- Share information at the right time. The decision-making involved in choosing a memory care community can be overwhelming for a person with dementia. Sharing details about the move months in advance could lead to unnecessary worry or confusion. That’s why it’s often best to handle the details of moving for your loved one and communicate about the plan within a few days or weeks of the move.
- Keep it simple. If your mom or dad doesn’t fully understand what’s happening, you may have to explain where and why they’re moving, sometimes repeatedly. It’s helpful to stick to a simple message and ask other family members to do the same, such as “you’re moving to a new home where you’ll be safe.”
- Pack for your loved one. For someone with dementia, the process of packing up their belongings can be confusing and disorienting. Taking care of the steps involved in packing can relieve some of the stress of moving.
- Make a plan for moving day. Although you may not have a lot of furniture and boxes to move, consider enlisting the help of a few friends or family members on moving day. That way, you can focus on navigating the new space and helping your parents settle in.
- Acknowledge your loved one’s feelings. Moving to a new place can be confusing for someone with dementia, and they may feel sad, upset or worried about the changes. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and let them know you’re there to help.
- Meet caregivers and staff. As you spend time in the community, you’ll meet nurses, dining staff, activities coordinators and other team members. Make a point to introduce yourself and get to know the team members who will be assisting your mom or dad.
- Share your loved one’s story. Sharing key details about your parent’s life story can help team members find ways to connect with them. Talk with team members about your loved one’s interests, personal preferences, background and where they used to live and work, as well as a bit about their personality before having memory loss.
- Maintain a calm presence. Staying calm throughout the moving process can help everyone move forward with greater confidence.
- Help them feel at home. Adding personal touches can help your mom or dad settle into their new residence. Consider bringing some special items from home, such as family photos, familiar personal items and favorite artwork or decorations.
- Visit often. Regular visits from family and friends can help your loved one feel comfortable in their new home, especially in the first few weeks and months after moving.
- Get to know the neighbors. Encourage your parents to interact with other residents and enjoy the social aspects of living in a memory care community.
- Participate in community activities. Enrichment activities for people with dementia can help create a sense of belonging. It’s a great way to encourage your loved one to continue exploring their interests and finding joy and purpose every day. Ask for an activities calendar so you can stop by and join in an activity with your loved one.
We’re Here to Help Ease the Transition to Memory Care
Transitioning a loved one into memory care is a big decision, but it can also provide them with the specialized care, safety and support they need. At Village Shalom, we’re passionate about helping people with dementia enjoy life in a safe and supportive environment. Our memory care community features private suites within a household model of care where residents have access to beautifully appointed community spaces and secure outdoor courtyards. Your loved one will have plenty of opportunities to engage with 40+ hours of dementia-friendly programming per week. Contact us to schedule a tour or to learn more about our innovative memory care community in Overland Park, KS.
